Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fear. Show all posts

Thursday, September 1, 2011

FEAR IS ALL AROUND…………..OR IS IT???!!!!!!

 
Now there is a thought provoking theme if we have ever heard one.  Fear!  Fear seems to be all around us on a daily basis.  It is thrown in our faces no matter where we look, listen or rest!  Fear!  What are we to do?  STOP!  STOP for a quick minute and take a new perspective.
First of all, define FEAR.  Fear actually stands for False Evidence Appearing Real.  Think about it for a moment.  When do you become most fearful?  When something is presented to you where you truly do not know the outcome or have no perceived control over the outcome.  What is the next thing that happens?  You begin to let “logic” take control.  When you do this, what do you do?  You begin to run ever scenario through your head that could possibly happen.  Admit it, you do this, we all have a tendency to do this as it is an aspect of being human within this physical plane.  While you are running this exercise in your head, pay attention to the scenarios you are utilizing!  They are 99.9% negative, having a negative impact, negative effect or contain a negative dismal event that will most certainly spiral us well down into the depths of despair, depression and doom!  With this understanding, this new realization of what we actually do, what can we deduce from all of this?  We can actually begin to understand that FEAR is man made, something we actually and absolutely create!!  Fear comes about when we put into motion events in our minds that do not match the events we want to have actually transpire.  In other words, we create an outcome that is so horrible, so unlike us, something that we would never create for ourselves, an event that is not in alignment with our true heartfelt desires.  We create the fear!  Yes we do, all the time and we all do it.  Some more than others, some less than others but we are all active participants within the “creating fear cycle”.
Now that we have identified what we do, let’s address for a moment why we do it!  The easiest answer to this question is our self worth, how we feel about ourselves and our own worthiness within this physical plane!  Face it, how many times have you had a desire and the first thought you had was in some fashion “I can never do, have or be whatever it is that we desire”.  We are sure you are reading this saying to yourself, “there is no way I do that to myself”, as the knot in your stomach grows tighter.  Go look in the mirror, do it, go look in the mirror.  When you do, what are the first thoughts that come into your physical consciousness?  We are certain they are not very positive thoughts, more likely they are negatively critiquing some aspects of your body, looks or being.  Be honest, we all do it from time to time.  We all have issues on some level of self worth, fulfilling our desires and actually being worthy of that which we desire.  Imagine this, again we are the cause of our own fears!
The root cause of this….we fail to develop a true and sound relationship with our whole and complete being!  We fail to be fully “United In Acceptance” with our true selves.  In other words, we fail to see ourselves as one whole and complete being, understanding we have a physical aspect that we see and a non physical aspect that we feel and these two aspects together form our whole and complete being.  We are not separated!  We can never separate that which is whole.  When we being to understand this, when we begin to feel this and when we begin to live life from this standpoint, we begin to get this “FEAR ISSUE” under control.  Take that quick minute to develop that relationship with yourself.  Talk to yourself each day, even if it is just for a few moments, get to know who you are as a whole and complete being!  Do it for yourself, you will be glad you did!
Be sure and join Mary Anne Cipressy and Dave Trippany Friday as they dialog on this very topic!  Join them on Blog Talk Radio at www.blogtalkradio.com/ITSC, Fridays at 1 PM eastern time.  Sit back and listen or feel free to join in the dialog, you will be glad you did!  To learn more, visit them at www.ITSCcoaching.com.  While there, click on the “Resources Tab” to get your free tools today to create your better tomorrow.
Until next time, may you experience all that you desire!
Mary Anne Cipressy and Dave Trippany
ITSC Life Coaches with ITSC, LLC.


 

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Dwelling in the Land of Negativity

The land of negativity is a place that exists with in but experienced in your life. It is a place created when one dwells on all the horrors, awful, seemingly terrible things seen going on in our lives and in our world today. It is possible to become so fixated on them; focus on them so much so that it is all one see’s. It then becomes impossible to see anything else. This is the land of loss, crime, drugs, people taking advantage of others, racism and so much more very unpleasant experiences. It is home to hate, anger, blame, revenge and despair.

Those who reside there experience powerlessness to do anything about all the awful things they see. You can hear their cries of danger, warning and impending doom. In this land happiness is an illusion. Joy is an impossibility. Love no longer exists as it is seen as a source of pain and emotional hurts. One can choose to live here or visit for as long as one desires to. The longer one stays though, the desire to leave fades.

Many say this land is our reality and the reality of all. If you can not see it then there is something wrong with you for this is the only land that exists. There is no other land beyond this. Anything else is just a fantasy or a dream and therefore not real. If you refuse to dwell is this land you are considered foolish or fool hearted.

Those who dwell in this land look to be rescued or saved. However if this is the only land that exists where are they to go? They look for someone to “fix” everything. However if everything were to be fixed then this land would no longer exist as everything would be better. A new land would then exist or would it? The people of this land do not see the negativity as negativity. They see it as reality. It is only those who do not dwell there who see it as negative.

Those who are not of this land have chosen that they do not wish to dwell there. They dwell in another place of their own choosing and as such this land is their reality. There are many such lands called and known by many different names. Some of these lands are full of wonder, happiness, joy and love. Other such lands are full of hope, peace and contentment. This lands can be visited any time one desires as all are welcome. You can stay as long as you want or you can move on to another.

What land are you dwelling in?
What lands are you visiting?
The choice is yours.